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After a quick greeting, read the following article out loud. Your tutor will go over pronunciation if necessary.
[P1] Give Tinder a break and take yourself on a date tonight.
[P2] Being single has a handful of benefits, scientific research has found. Alone time is one of them. Single people are more likely to not only embrace solitude, but benefit from it, recent studies have suggested.
[P3] Bella DePaulo, a psychologist at the University of California Santa Barbara, advocates the single life and travels the nation to present these findings, which she says are too often dismissed by the larger psychology community.
[P4] In a TEDx Talk she gave last spring, she called living single her “happily ever after.” Studies suggest she’s onto something.
Single people tend to have stronger social networks
[P5] In 2015, social scientists named Natalia Sarkisian and Naomi Gerstel set out to explore how ties to relatives, neighbors, and friends varied among single and married American adults. They found that singles were not only more likely to frequently reach out to their social networks, but also tended to provide and receive help from these people more than their married peers.
[P6] Their results held steady even when they accounted for factors like race, gender, and income levels. Put simply, “being single increases the social connections of both women and men,” Sarkisian and Gerstel wrote in their paper.
[P7] Fostering friendship is key to aging well and boosting happiness, several recent studies have suggested. One of them, published in 2008 in the British Medical Journal, found that people who had regular contact with 10 or more others were significantly happier than those who did not, and that people with fewer friends were less happy overall.
[P8] Friends who are not your family may be especially important. In a pair of studies involving nearly 280,000 people, William Chopik, an assistant professor of psychology at Michigan State University, found that friendships become increasingly important as we age.
[P9] In older people, friendships were a stronger predictor of both health and happiness than relationships with family members. “Keeping a few really good friends around can make a world of difference for our health and well-being,” Chopik said in a statement. “So it’s smart to invest in the friendships that make you happiest.”
Singles also tend to be fitter
[P10] There may be some truth to the idea that people who “settle down” ease into unhealthier habits, at least when it comes to some measures of physical fitness. In surveying more than 13,000 people between 18 and 64, researchers found that those who were single and had never married worked out more frequently each week than their married and divorced peers.
[P11] A 2015 study in the journal Social Science and Medicine compared the body mass indexes of about 4,500 people in nine European countries and found that single people had, on average, slightly lower BMIs than those who were married. Overall, the married couples also weighed about five pounds more than the singles.
Single people may develop more individually and benefit more from alone time
[P12] Several studies have linked solitude to benefits such as an increased sense of freedom and higher levels of creativity and intimacy. Amy Morin, a psychotherapist, says that alone time can help people be more productive as well.
[P13] “Time alone doesn’t have to be lonely,” Morin previously told Business Insider. “It could be the key to getting to know yourself better.” In a 2016 presentation for the American Psychological Association, DePaulo presented evidence that single people tended to have stronger feelings of self-determination and were more likely to experience psychological growth and development than their married counterparts.
[P14] Still, DePaulo acknowledged that research on the psychological benefits of being single is lacking. While combing through 814 studies on singles, she discovered that most of them used singles only as a comparison group to learn about married people, not singledom.
[P15] Another analysis of data from the 1998 National Survey of Families and Households suggested that the single people in the sample were more likely to experience personal growth than the married people, as measured by how they perceived the processes of learning and growth and the idea of new experiences.
[P16] In other words, while romantic relationships certainly have benefits, being single does too. “The beliefs that single people are miserable, lonely … and want nothing more than to become un-single are just myths,” DePaulo said.
Read the word/expression and definition out loud. Your tutor will go over anything you do not understand. Practice creating a sentence or two to make sure you know how to use the word/expression properly.
|give someone a break||(expression) stop putting pressure on someone about something
e.g. He’s seven times as quick and he’s only 20 years old. Give me a break.
|solitude||(n) a state or situation in which you are alone usually because you want to be
e.g. She wished to work on her novel in solitude.
|set out to (verb)||(expression) begin a journey
e.g. She drew up a plan of what her organization should set out to achieve.
|hold steady||(expression) remain unchanged
e.g. The old tree held steady in the storm; It did not fall.
|intimacy||(n) emotional warmth and closeness
e.g. At my high school reunion, I was pleasantly surprised by the intimacy of old friends.
Use the following questions as a guideline to help develop an interesting conversation with your tutor. Feel free to diverge from these suggestions if anything interesting comes up.
- Summarize the article in your own words.
- What are some other reasons it might be better to be single?
- How do singles and couples in your culture behave differently? Are there any dynamics that are similar?
- Do you agree that being single is better? If so, what part of the article resonated with you the most? If not, why not? Share your thoughts with your Cambly tutor!